Friday, November 23, 2012

Wedding Etiquette: 7 Rules for Wedding Toasts

Some of the most heartfelt and tear-jerking sentiments are shared during the wedding toast. More often than not, though, some of the most embarrassing moments happen because of the wedding toast. Fear not! Here are some simple rules for toast etiquette at a wedding if you are one of these lucky individuals.

Wedding Toast Etiquette 
Who Should Give a Wedding Toast:
Tradition has the best man starting the toasts. And traditionally, he is the only one who does. Now, it's very rare that the only person to speak at your reception will be the best man and the maid of honor. Usually the father of the bride or an elder family member presents the first toast to the bride and groom. The mother of the groom may want to raise a glass as well. So far, that's at least four people wishing to speak. And at some point, won't you want to respond to so many well wishes too?

7 Rules for Wedding Toasts:

Rule #1: Keep it short: While this is an important portion of the evening, toasts should typically be on the shorter side. It's best to stay under 2-3 minutes.

Rule #2: practice: Sometimes even spontaneity requires a little forethought. Practice out loud in the mirror a few times. practice, practice, practice!

Rule #3: Be polite: Try to keep the wisecracks to a minimum. Obviously, don’t say anything obscene and have an understanding of the dynamic of your audience. When it's your turn, you should stand up, holding your glass with your right hand. At the end of the toast, raise your glass towards the person you are toasting.

Rule #4: When you give a toast, you should be standing. Make short, simple and sincere comments.

Rule #5: Have good eye contact: If you are looking down at notes the whole time, your audience is far more likely to get bored and uninterested. Engage them. Look at the bridge and groom when telling stories about them, but make sure to stay focused on the entire room.
Rules for Wedding Toasts
Rule #6: Mention both of the couples: This is their day, so no matter how many great stories you have including you and one or both, make sure the focus is on them. It’s also very important to remember to mention both in your toast. Even if you primarily know one of them, found some way to work the other in so no-one feels left out.

Rule #7: Toast the bride and groom: This may seem obvious, but toast givers often forget to actually toast the happy couple. Make sure not to omit this portion, as it’s the reason you are giving the toast in the first place.

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